Troubled Teens
Having problems with your teenager?
Effective communication is definitely the key to resolving problems with troubled teens. But they don’t say anything meaningful to you, do they? How can you communicate then?
Know for a start, that their rebelliousness is a natural phase in growing to adulthood. Most of their lives, they followed your advice, did what they were told, learned what you taught them. To be well-balanced adults, they must be able to make their own decisions and judgements, to survive without you. The teenage years are when this progression happens. They start listening to their peers instead of you, they find their own way of doing things, they question everything. To accomplish this huge change in their lives, they must dismiss a lot of what you say, and not take everything for granted. A change like this does not happen overnight, it takes years. Your teenager is preparing to become their own person. Yes, they make mistakes on the way, it’s part of their learning curve. Sometimes (OK, a lot of the time), they’re downright impossible and you just want to scream!
Is it possible for parents to help their troubled teens through this phase, and still survive?
Yes, absolutely!
The key is effective communication. Techniques exist that are specially designed for teenagers, that will help them grow, and help you to survive intact :-)
I was fortunate enough to be single mother (!) and this created an incredible bond between my son and myself. Because of all the relationship work we had done in his childhood, by the time he hit the teenage years, he was already used to asking my advice, and communicating with me - well, there wasn’t anyone else in the house to talk to!
Most parents however, are having problems with their teenagers. ‘Uncontrollable’ is a word I hear often. Some parents cannot even go out and leave their teenagers in the house by themselves, for fear of the damage they can cause.
Here’s two excellent solutions to help parents with troubled teens...
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Why Do They Act Like That?
Strategies and techniques to communicate effectively with your teenager, put together by John Carter, from the Family & Teen Connection. His mission is to facilitate growth and healing in families, by providing parents and teens with the tools and strategies they need to create a relationship characterized by caring, respect and understanding.
“Why Do They Act Like That” is his guide for parents with teenagers. If you would like to reconnect with your teenager, if you want to be able to end the frustration and get a positive relationship started, then you both deserve to learn the techniques he teaches.
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My Out Of Control Teenager
My Out-of-Control-Teen is an online parent program for working parents who are struggling with their out-of-control teenagers, plus this program also includes the Out-Of-Control Teen eBook (a digital book).
This book shares over 150 proven techniques to use with your strong-willed, out-of-control teenager. If parents don’t have these techniques, all they are left with are conventional parenting techniques.
And as they may have discovered, conventional techniques don't work with unconventional
teenagers.
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